At times our lives can feel overwhelmed and overwhelming, as though the pressures of the entire universe has collapsed upon your shoulders.  However it may feel, rest assured that has not happened.  It is the emotions, feeling as though it has that causes the blood pressure to raise, fear and anxiety to set in; and the next thing we seem to be at odds with every person around us.

 

This is the time for a plan, to recognize what role you've played to help create the current situation and what can be done to create a change.  I tell my clients, I can't have an argument with myself, there has to be at least one other participant.   Guess what everyone, you can chose not to participate!  The secret is how to do that, how to take back control of your own life.  The following is the action plan:

 

                      1) No one can make you feel any particular way...Only you have control over your emotions.  You maychose to feel a number of ways over how someone

speek to you or behaves around you, but they are notin control of your emotions unless you give them control.

 

                       2) If you have given up control take it back!   To do so go back to step 1---no one can make you feel any particular way.  Words are very powerful and can control

our emotions and ultimately our behavior.   Take responsiblityby changing how you word your emotions.  Instead of giving away your power by saying "they made me mad", own your emotions by saying, "I am upset because you seem to not

listen to me."  This one little change takes back your control over your own emotions. 

 

                         3) Acknowledge you have no control over the choices of others.  Once you have stated your needs, wants and desires to someone else and they have for whatever reasons decided to not comply with the request; you must decide a course of

action on your part.  Decide to make no change and leave things as they are or not participate in .....whatever activities you have been involved with.  Remember if you decide to continue with the same actions you must accept responsibility for that choice; take back your power and recognize that you made the choice!

 

                       4) Take Action.  Once you have decided to leave things as they are or to make a change, you must take action on that choice.

 

                       5) Do something nice for yourself today.

 

 

 

1) Are you easily annoied?   ___

 

2) Do you try to ignore problems and later find yourself being verbally or physically aggressive (yelling, swearing, throwing things or getting into fights)?   ___

 

3) Do you find yourself becoming impatient if you have to wait for extended

periods of time?  ___

 

4) When driving, do you tailgate or speed past another driver even though there is

    no need to rush? ___

 

5) Do other people avoid telling you bad news?  ___

 

6) Are you easily irritated? ___

 

7) Do you become frustrated or annoied when others make minor mistakes? ____

 

8) Do you find yourself screeming and yelling at someone even though the other person did nothing to upset you? ___

 

9) Do you slam doors, throw or break things when upset, frustrated or irritated? ___

 

10) Do you grind or clench your teeth? ___

 

My total = _____

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